I urged you to notice your inner dialogue. One of the greatest obstacles to connecting to intention are your thoughts of what others want or expect from you. The more you focus on how upsetting it is that your family doesn’t understand or appreciate you, the more you’ll attract their misunderstanding or lack of appreciation. Why? Because what you think about expands, even when you think about what you find unnerving, and even when you think about what you don’t want in your life.
If you’re attracted to this intention, then you most likely already know which family members push your buttons. If you feel as though you’re unduly influenced by their expectations, or you’re a victim of their way of being, you’ll need to begin by shifting from thoughts of what they’re doing to what you’re thinking. Say to yourself, I’ve taught all these people how to treat me as a result of my willingness to make their opinions of me more important than my own. You might want to follow this up by emphatically stating, And it’s my intention to teach them how I desire to be treated from now on! Taking responsibility for how your family members treat you helps you create the kind of relationship with all of your relatives that matches up with the universal mind of intention.
You may be asking yourself how you can possibly be responsible for teaching people how to treat you. The answer is, in large part, your willingness to not only put up with listening to those familial pressures—some of which are long-term traditions running back countless generations— but also with allowing yourself to disconnect from your divine Source and indulge in low-energy emotions as humiliation, blame, despair, regret, anxiety, and even hatred. You and only you taught your kin how to treat you through your will ingness to accept critical comments from that wellmeaning, but often interfering and bothersome, tribe.