Happy Herald - On the Bright Side https://www.happyherald.com/articles.sec-8507-1-on-the-bright-side.html <![CDATA[“Re-examine all you have been told. Dismiss what insults your soul.” – Walt Whitman]]> November is my anniversary month. This year my husband and I celebrate 28 years together – wow! Our kids are grown and embarking on lives of their own.]]> <![CDATA[CTRL-ALT-DELETE]]> For me, I am more connected to my higher self, not tripping over myself so much. I am better able to stay focused on living my best life, as opposed to constantly searching for what that might be. Fewer resets. Nonetheless, CTRL-ALT-DELETE is there for all of us when we need it. Thank goodness.]]> <![CDATA[Sybil Liberties]]> I used to love the beginning of a new school year. One year I was punk, the next year a cheerleader. I went from Rizzo to Sandy in less than six months. In college, I minored in dance and changed my major three times. If people didn’t know me better, they might think I had Multiple Personality Disorder. Bear with me, I’m not making light of this affliction. In fact, it is one of the reasons I majored in Psychology.]]> <![CDATA[The Mirror Within]]> I went to my childhood home in upstate New York recently and allowed my imagination to run away with itself. I am no stranger to the nostalgic reverie that has me walking in a near semi-conscious state through my old stomping grounds – the woods, fields, winding country roads.… But this time I allowed myself to fantasize as a character in a novel. ]]> <![CDATA[Sticks and Stones]]> Globalization. Scholars weigh the pros and cons. Politicians take sides about how it impacts “us.” You would think globalization is a 20th century concept but really, it’s been happening since the beginning of time. When you think about it, the center of anyone’s universe begins with the self. ]]> <![CDATA[Life in My Closet]]> I’ve always fondly referred to my closet as my “Room of My Own” and my copy of Virginia Woolf’s book of the same name is front and center on one of the shelves. My closet is full of my creative endeavors. Paintings on the walls, journals upon journals of songs and poetry, and even about a hundred pairs of rosecolored glasses that I bought on a whim on my 40th birthday when I had dreams of starting RoseyShades, the “attitude accessory” company. It’s my Dream Cave. ]]> <![CDATA[Are you my mother?]]> Do we ever stop wondering if we are doing it right? For the last 52 years I have relied on my mother to answer that question. Now she’s gone. At the end of the day, I suppose we are all meant to be our own final judge, jury, guru and muse.]]> <![CDATA[Becoming a Memoirist]]> If you share your life with another person, ideally sharing a home, whether married or romantically involved or not… this section is about sharing your life with another person, and the trials and tribulations of sacrificing enough to make it work, but not so much that you lose yourself – or it may be about how you are are still working this out.]]> <![CDATA[Kids Today]]> My parents had to pull me inside, I had to push my kids outside. The goal was the same: balance. Anyone growing up prior to the past 20 years had to make an effort to be social. Today, being alone requires effort. In either case a balance between the two is ideal. Technology has made being connected the new normal and for those pining for the good ole days, I think it is important to accept that this is not going to change.]]> <![CDATA[Sometimes it’s an EMERGEncy]]> I welcomed 2019 more eagerly than any year I can remember. Last year was truly the epitome of the adage “Make plans and God laughs,” only my curve balls were interlaced with sadness and tragedy to boot. It was one emergency after another. You learn a lot about yourself when put to the test. I learned that I am not a crier. ]]> <![CDATA[The Secret of Success is Knowing There is None]]> school district. She has created a character named Rosey Shades TM , whose philosophy teaches students about the importance of choosing optimism over pessimism by asking, “What color are the clouds in your world? For more information, visit http://roseyshadesonthebrightside.]]> <![CDATA[The Magic of Music]]> We started talking about songs that would be appropriate, and took turns getting goose bumps as we described our favorite lyrics, and how meaningful they would be for all kinds of lessons - government, history, economics (we are social studies teachers). We recited lyrics, and said “have you ever heard...”, and we both giggled like school girls. Oh-My-God-I-Love-Her!!!]]> <![CDATA[With Liberty, Justice and Love for All]]> Woodhull once said, “It makes no difference who or what you are, old or young, black or white, pagan, Jew, or Christian, I want to love you all and be loved by you all, and I mean to have your love.]]> <![CDATA[From Bootstraps to Bubble-wrap… Where Will We Go From Here?]]> When pendulums swing too far in either direction the balance is off. Both sides have their merit. Free speech is part of what it means to be an American. And liberty and justice for ALL is also what it means to be an American. Grit, resilience, and maybe helping someone else adjust their bootstraps once in a while might be a way for us to meet in the middle.]]> <![CDATA[It was the Worst of Times, it was the worst of times]]> If you look at the way the media has changed over time, it is easy to see why today we find ourselves in another revolutionary kind of time period. Twitter, Facebook, and the never ending 24-hour news cycle create an environment that can be all-consuming and even addictive. This itself is a new problem. But what we are obsessing over is not new. Just new to us as a constant source of stress.]]> <![CDATA[A Revolution of the Heart]]> It was right after Columbine that I got the idea for Rosey Shades. I was the guidance counselor at an elementary school here in Boca. I wondered what I could do to create a more positive climate at school, and also, more positive people in general, who might grow up to be a more hopeful and kind generation. A lofty goal, yes, but I felt I had to do something.]]> <![CDATA[Hanging with my Ohmies]]> I become hopeful when I see five yoga studios within a five-mile radius, farmer’s markets weekly and classes at the local library on meditation becoming more and more common. It reminds me that pendulums swing and balance is eventually restored.]]> <![CDATA[Provide for your vision - provision!]]> I am referring to our day dreams - those we imagine in our waking hours. I don’t know about you, but if my sleeping dreams came to life I’d be living in a strange world!]]> <![CDATA[Every Day Counts]]> One is such a big number. It is assigned so much clout: Number one; one of a kind; the one and only; first place; first in line. On the first day of the first month of a brand new year the importance gets even more magnified. It is the first day of the rest of our LIVES!!!! Brand new diet, brand new lifestyle, workout routine, project getting off the ground, filing system, morning routine, calendar, brand new YOU.]]> <![CDATA[Respond vs. React]]> Is there a difference between reacting and responding? According to the dictionary they are interchangeable: to react is to respond to something and vice versa. I began thinking about this because I recently experienced a visceral reaction to something I read. I had to stop myself from reacting without thinking first. If I replied to what I had read quickly, without thinking, I would be acting, thus it would be my reaction to what I was feeling. ]]>